By Joshua Tosin Ogunsakin 
Content creator and Actress Kiekie has spoken on the societal pressures she faces as a married woman with a child.
On the ‘I Said What I Said’ Podcast, KieKie discussed how people comment on her dressing style, saying she doesn’t “dress like a married woman,” which led her to search for a specific dress code for married women.
“I started seeing the comments where people were telling me that I don’t dress like a married woman. I literally had to Google the dress code of a married woman and didn’t see anything. Nobody has said anything about how married women are supposed to dress”, she said.
Kiekie also talked about the guilt-tripping that comes with leaving her child behind when she steps out.
“I have also noticed that when you have a child and you go out, the first thing people ask you is where your child is. You can see me in a club at 1am, why would the child be here? Are you trying to guilt trip me? I don’t get it”, she added.
Additionally, Kiekie highlighted the condescending comments she receives when people learn she’s financially independent.
She emphasised that women should fight for their dreams and not rely on their partners as a backup plan.
Kiekie believes that change must come from within and that women need to be reoriented to break free from societal expectations.
She encourages women to take responsibility for their choices and aspirations, promoting a mindset shift toward self-empowerment and personal growth.
KieKie said: “The one that gets to me is that even when people compliment me they say things like ‘you have a husband who can help you.’ and to them it’s a compliment, you’re insulting me.
“They’re thinking I don’t have any problems because I have a husband. If you want to do something, I can meet my husband, it makes no sense. I’m the one who is meant to fight for my dreams not using him as a backup plan. We have a very long way to go because women themselves need to be reoriented. We can’t expect change to come from the men, it has to come from us”.